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A future Rebbitzen?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
September 15th, 2020
Dear Rabbi and Shira, I am dating a guy who wants to be a rabbi. He’s a smart individual with sterling middis and a big heart.  At the beginning of our relationship, I thought the concept  of dating a future rabbi would be great. I love the idea of an open home and taking care of people. By nature I am a very nurturing and loving person . Now that we are entering the next  stage, the engagement talks , my parents are opening …
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Alone
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
February 28th, 2020
Dear Rabbi and Shira,
I’m really at a loss what to do .
I am 33 and have tried every option to get married. I have done websites, organized singles events, and  chiller events. I’ve gone to Amuka, and I daven twice a day. One summer I even went to the Kotel for forty days. At this point I’m extremely depressed, lonely, crying myself to sleep every night, and I don’t know what the point of my life is. Som …
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Conflicted on Coney
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
August 5th, 2020
Dear Rabbi and Shira, Hi! I was wondering if you could help me with this issue. I am engaged to a wonderful girl I met over a year ago. Everything was going very smoothly until the engagement. Our parents have very different views on how to make a Covid wedding. My  who are influential people in the community want an upscale wedding with over 200 guests. I am their only son and they have waited a long time to see me walk down the aisle. Her …
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Covid Dating?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
April 24th, 2020
Dear Rabbi and Shira, I hope you and your family are well. It’s been 5 weeks since we’ve been sheltering in place. I’m wondering if I should start “dating” online as there seems to be no end in sight.  Shadchanim have been calling me and encouraging me to try dating through facetime, zoom, or skype. This is not how I envisioned dating and so I’m unsure if I should give it a shot. With life being so up in t …
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Dating and Mental Health
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
December 10th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira, Thank you for your column! I read it with my family every week and we enjoy discussing it! I am in a relationship with a wonderful young lady, and things are progressing well. I suffer from anxiety disorder and am not sure at what point I should get engaged. In light of my condition, when is it responsible to start a life and family? Scared to start Dear Scared, It’s responsible of you to consider these things, and bra …
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Distracted?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
December 25th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira , I’m engaged to an awesome girl but I am not sure what to do about her work habits .  She has a challenging job that keeps her busy 24/7. Her boss doesn’t mind if she comes to the office or does her work from home as long as the job gets done. Unfortunately, the job gets done when we are on dates or just in the middle of a discussion. One minute I’m having a conversation with her and the next …
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Does He Miss Me?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
October 27th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira, Hi! I really enjoy reading your column each week and I’m hoping you can help me. I’ve been dating a guy for about a month and a half, and I’m not sure what to do. While in person we speak well, conversations flow, we laugh and have a great time together, after the date the phone will be silent, and I will not hear from him for several hours or even a full day. Most of the time, I am the one in the end that …
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Finished at the Finish Line
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
August 5th, 2020
Dear Rabbi and Shira, I made it to the finish line. When I reached the age of 19 I hit the ground running, looking for a partner to share my life with. I went to shadchanim, social events, web-sites, you name it, I did it. I always kept my eye on the prize, which was getting married and building a beautiful bayis neeman biyisrael. By the time I was 22, I crossed the finish line. I had a glittering ring on my finger and a wonderful husband to go w …
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Fumbling the Relationship?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
October 3rd, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira, I’m not sure what to do. My chasan who is generally responsive and attentive has become very distracted now that football season has started. He spends hours watching games and is not conversational during them. He doesn’t want to go out when there is a game, and it seems there is always a game, and when there is no game on, he and his friends are talking about their fantasy league. What should I do? Relationship …
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"Just" Beautiful on the outside and inside..
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
November 6th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira,

I have gone out with over 50 girls in the last 2 years. I do not consider myself a picky person. I believe that the girl I marry should be both beautiful inside and outside. For some reason, I usually find the girls I go out with to be either one or the other, but not both.
Both of my parents are pushing me to get married. All 4 of my siblings got married by the age of 24 and I'm already 26. I feel like I …
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