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Too Friendly in Flatbush?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
January 27th, 2020
Dear Rabbi and Shira
Thanks so much for your column. My family and I read it every week! Here’s my question. My husband and I agreed when we were engaged that we would cut back on friends of the opposite gender, as both of us saw it as an important part of our first year of marriage. We have now been married for over three months and he still is very close to all his friends who are women. He has made no effort to distance h …
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Safe Dating
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
November 27th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira Hi.  I’m a weekly reader of your column. I figured this was the right place to ask my question. On my friend’s very first date, she got in a fight with the person she was set up with. It got so bad that he pulled over on one of the service roads of Ocean Parkway and demanded she get out pf the car. While there are scarier possibilities that could have happened, I started to wonder what are “best practic …
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Not Who I Married
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
February 5th, 2020
  Dear Rabbi and Shira
I’m not sure what to do. I married my wife over a year ago thinking that she was a typical woman from a similar background as myself.  We both grew up in Flatbush and are more modern than our parents. The problem is I didn’t realize how modern she actually is. Slowly after we got married, she started wearing shorter and shorter skirts, and sometimes now even wears pants. She has what she call …
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Not Ready to Date?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
September 11th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira, I don’t know what to do! I’m 21, have returned from seminary and have completed 2 years of college.. My parents, friends and family are all pressuring me to start dating, but I don’t feel as though I’m ready. Discussions with my mother usually deteriorate into her crying and telling me that I’ll end up alone, with a bunch of cats. This gets me very nervous and then I start crying as well. Howeve …
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No Job, No date?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
October 11th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira, I’m engaged, and we have been experiencing some tension in the past month. My Chasan is very financially conscious, and I don’t have a job currently. He has been insinuating that I have not been trying hard enough to find a job. I feel that I have, and he isn’t being understanding of my situation. I also would still like to go out every so often on a nice date, but he feels as long as I don’t have a j …
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"Just" Beautiful on the outside and inside..
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
November 6th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira,

I have gone out with over 50 girls in the last 2 years. I do not consider myself a picky person. I believe that the girl I marry should be both beautiful inside and outside. For some reason, I usually find the girls I go out with to be either one or the other, but not both.
Both of my parents are pushing me to get married. All 4 of my siblings got married by the age of 24 and I'm already 26. I feel like I …
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Fumbling the Relationship?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
October 3rd, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira, I’m not sure what to do. My chasan who is generally responsive and attentive has become very distracted now that football season has started. He spends hours watching games and is not conversational during them. He doesn’t want to go out when there is a game, and it seems there is always a game, and when there is no game on, he and his friends are talking about their fantasy league. What should I do? Relationship …
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Does He Miss Me?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
October 27th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira, Hi! I really enjoy reading your column each week and I’m hoping you can help me. I’ve been dating a guy for about a month and a half, and I’m not sure what to do. While in person we speak well, conversations flow, we laugh and have a great time together, after the date the phone will be silent, and I will not hear from him for several hours or even a full day. Most of the time, I am the one in the end that …
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Distracted?
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
December 25th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira , I’m engaged to an awesome girl but I am not sure what to do about her work habits .  She has a challenging job that keeps her busy 24/7. Her boss doesn’t mind if she comes to the office or does her work from home as long as the job gets done. Unfortunately, the job gets done when we are on dates or just in the middle of a discussion. One minute I’m having a conversation with her and the next …
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Dating and Mental Health
Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi
December 10th, 2019
Dear Rabbi and Shira, Thank you for your column! I read it with my family every week and we enjoy discussing it! I am in a relationship with a wonderful young lady, and things are progressing well. I suffer from anxiety disorder and am not sure at what point I should get engaged. In light of my condition, when is it responsible to start a life and family? Scared to start Dear Scared, It’s responsible of you to consider these things, and bra …
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