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Parenting with Purpose
Sara Teichman, PsyD
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Dreading Rosh Hashana
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
September 12th, 2017
  Dear Dr T. I ‘ve never seen this question in any of our Torah publications, so I hope you will take the time to respond. With Rosh Hashanah / Yom Kippur approaching, I feel increasingly anxious and tense. It’s not just that I feel aimas hadin; it’s something else entirely. You see, in my family, we take davening very seriously: going to shul from the beginning of shacharis until after ma’ariv is standard. But, today …
School Days
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
August 31st, 2017
Dear Dr T., School is starting! This year, I would like to make my son’s learning a real priority. But, how do I convince my fifth grade son to do his very best in school? He is an easy-going kid and he takes advantage of the fact that because of our many community obligations we are not always around to help with his homework. He seems content with being a B+ student, though we have been told by the rebbeim that he can do better. We have t …
What Should I Do?
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
August 6th, 2017
Dear Dr T., I have a problem with my two and a half year old. He is always hurting his one-year-old brother. Even if I am playing with them both, the older one may just take a toy and throw it at the baby. I am writing to you as a last resort though I don’t know if you can help me. I certainly have asked many people – parents, siblings, friends, and even a rebbitzen in my community. People say all kind of things: from just looking awa …
It's Not Fair!
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
July 13th, 2017
Dear Dr T., My parents have just offered to take our ten year old daughter to Israel this summer. She would love to go and we feel that this is a real opportunity for her. My husband and I are concerned, however, that it would not be fair to send her because her twelve year old brother cannot go. His yeshiva is on the eleven month schedule, so he is in school at the time that my parents are going. What do you think? Is it right for us to let her …
Being Mevater - tzaddik or neb?
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
June 29th, 2017
Dear Dr. T,  I’m not sure I have a problem or I am making a mountain out of a molehill. My two boys –ages 10 and 12- share a room. I’ve been noticing that the older brother always gives in to the younger one for the sake of peace: letting him cheat at games, monopolize the room etc. Yet, though the older one seems increasingly resentful, he makes no move to assert himself. Lately, for example, he’s allowed a lethal Le …
Whose Side Are You On?
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
June 15th, 2017
Dear Dr T, My eight year old daughter is a star in school - socially and academically. At home, I really work hard to do right by her: take her shopping, help with school projects, enjoy special outings. We generally do well together and enjoy each other’s company. It is very disappointing to me, however, that whenever she gets upset about anything [about twice a week]- she lashes out at me and says ‘You don’t care about me&rsqu …
I Want Nosh!
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
May 29th, 2017
Dear Dr. T.,  My six-year-old daughter - a bright, friendly first-grader – goes crazy for nosh. From the minute, she wakes up ‘til the second she goes to sleep, she begs for junk. Though we are quite liberal and generous, and always make sure that she has what other kids her age have, she badgers us relentlessly when there is a possibility of more- i.e. a Kiddush, ‘goody-bags’ or Yom tov. No matter what the ‘dea …
You Don't Understand - or You Don't Need That Now!
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
May 19th, 2017
Dear Dr T., I know life was really hard for children in earlier times, but, honestly, is there such a thing as just too good? My children have just too much stuff, and the minute they get something, they move on to next…Instead of being satisfied with whatever they get, do, have – they just seem to crave more. I feel like we are creating a monster here- one that is impossible to satisfy! What happened Sunday is a good example. We wen …
Our Weekly Disaster: The Shabbos Seuda x2
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
May 12th, 2017
Dear Dr T., Since I was a little girl I dreamed about my Shabbos table- how we would all – my children and I- sit around and listen to my husband’s divrei torah and sing zemiros together. I was an only child of much older parents and our Shabbos table looked nothing like the Art Scroll coloring book. But, guess what? Now that I have that family I so longed for, my shabbos table is a far cry from what I imagined. It’s a complicat …
Proactive vs. Reactive Parenting
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
May 8th, 2017
Dear Dr T., You often talk about proactive parenting but I am not exactly sure what you mean. I am familiar with the word proactive from Stephen Covey’s The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, but I don’t know how it applies here. All I know is that I have a hard time managing my children and would like any help I can get.   Dr. T., Proactive means having a plan in place, knowing what you are going to do even before somethin …