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Parenting with Purpose
Sara Teichman, PsyD
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A proactive approach to chinuch habonim based on understanding and respect.
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You Don't Understand - or You Don't Need That Now!
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
May 19th, 2017
Dear Dr T., I know life was really hard for children in earlier times, but, honestly, is there such a thing as just too good? My children have just too much stuff, and the minute they get something, they move on to next…Instead of being satisfied with whatever they get, do, have – they just seem to crave more. I feel like we are creating a monster here- one that is impossible to satisfy! What happened Sunday is a good example. We wen …
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Why Children Misbehave
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
July 24th, 2018

Dear Dr. T.,
I am a teacher, so discipline is second nature to me. I have a good understanding of positive reinforcement and how to use consequences. I am pretty successful, if I say so myself, probably because I am consistent in my dealing with my children.
So, why am I writing you? Well, it’s about my nine year old daughter. Honestly, I just can’t understand her. She somehow makes trouble at home and in school- even …
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Whose Side Are You On?
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
June 15th, 2017
Dear Dr T, My eight year old daughter is a star in school - socially and academically. At home, I really work hard to do right by her: take her shopping, help with school projects, enjoy special outings. We generally do well together and enjoy each other’s company. It is very disappointing to me, however, that whenever she gets upset about anything [about twice a week]- she lashes out at me and says ‘You don’t care about me&rsqu …
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Whatever
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
May 9th, 2018
Dear Dr T., My children don't like to work hard! If something requires effort, forget it: they prefer not to learn or master the skill. They have tasted success when I pushed them to practice things such as riding a bike or jumping rope. But they often give up so easily and have a low frustration tolerance level, and this makes every lesson very difficult. This carries over to schoolwork as well. They would rather do poorly on a test th …
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What Should I Do?
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
August 6th, 2017
Dear Dr T., I have a problem with my two and a half year old. He is always hurting his one-year-old brother. Even if I am playing with them both, the older one may just take a toy and throw it at the baby. I am writing to you as a last resort though I don’t know if you can help me. I certainly have asked many people – parents, siblings, friends, and even a rebbitzen in my community. People say all kind of things: from just looking awa …
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Overstanding Your Child
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
February 23rd, 2017
Dear Dr T,  My wife and I come from a very similar background: one where children should  be ‘seen and not heard.’ Because of the negative effect  that this  child rearing method had on us, we are committed to bring up our children differently. We are grateful that we have BH been able to establish a home where our children have a voice and are eager to share with us.  So, what’s the problem, you might a …
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Too Frum?
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
March 23rd, 2017
Dear Dr T., We are worried about our seventeen-year-old son, a good boy who lives in the dorm of his yeshiva. He is very frum, and particularly scrupulous and meticulous in shmiras mitzos. He is well known in his yeshiva for davening the longest shmona esrei and for being honest - to a fault. So, what’s the catch? Well, with Pesach approaching, his frumkeit has become more intense. He keeps calling home with questions. ‘Do you know ho …
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The Mean Girls
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
February 17th, 2017
 Dear Dr T.,   I was a very successful junior high Morah/mechaneches in a prestigious in town school. And, every year, mothers would come and complain about the mean girls who were bothering their daughters – excluding them, mocking and/or teasing, and generally making their lives miserable. The thing is – that the girls they accused were often the products of the finest homes, models of derech eretz, or just all-around …
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The Challenge of Yom Tov: Family Politics
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
April 5th, 2017
 Dear Dr. T.,  I have always loved Pesach- as a young girl and as a Mom of little ones and teens. But, the last few yom tovim have been trying, to say the least, and I wonder if you could help.  You see- most of my children are ‘young-marrieds’ with a few children each. Because they live in out of town kollelim, they all want to come home for the seder and be with family.  So, what’s the problem? Well, though …
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Teasing Isn't Funny
Author: Sara Teichman, PsyD
October 30th, 2018
Dear Dr. T.,  My eleven year old worries me because he seems so overly sensitive to teasing that he actually falls apart when he is teased. This is problematic in school, but more so at home because my husband has a reputation for good natured teasing.  How do I help my son grow a tougher skin so he is not so vulnerable and easily hurt? Dr. T.,  There is no way that I am aware of to inure oneself to pain- whether it is physical or …
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