“I know you wish I can just “snap out of it” but I’m doing my best. I might even be attending my yoga class, eating organic, sniffing essential oils and spending time with the best of people, and some days I’m on my game and other days I struggle. I may be attending therapy and trying a new prescription my doctor suggested, and it’s taking time to see if it’s being effective. I am doing my best to be patient with this condition, and you being patient goes a long way, and offers heaps of support. “
6) I’m learning to appreciate the gifts I come with..I’d love if you can too.
“Being sensitive and easily affected by stressors can be tough, but it has also taught me how to be more empathetic, humble and compassionate. It’s made me into a deeper person and I’d love if you’d see that I’m a package deal. We all have struggles, and often, our struggles change us in ways that are good as well. I learning to se the bright side of this, and I hope you can too!”
7) Don’t Be Jealous
“I’d love to kick my feet up and sometimes worry a bit less. Laugh a bit more. Trust the process or space out for more than five minutes”. We all have personality types and different brain structures, don’t be jealous of the perks I have, and please don’t mock me for working so hard when you’re programmed differently. “
Though high functioning anxious people may be more productive and get much done, it comes with a cost. Remember, anxious overachievers come in many presentations; It may be the stay-at-home mom next door, your over-achieving best friend, or high power attorney sister- who all seem to “get things done so well” but struggle with anxiety.
8) My “day-off “is bliss, don’t tell me to make it different
“Your days off seem to be full of activity, social engagement and a laundry list of sites to visit. Mine? A warm cup of tea and a slow read on the sofa, with a late afternoon walk with a loved one. I’m not boring, I’m just different. Just because my brain is focused, and uber attentive at work, it does not mean I have to, or want to be like that at home. I need my down time to nourish and replenish me, and that’s ok. Don’t call me antisocial, a hermit or old. I do what’s good for me.”
If you’re the one struggling with high functioning anxiety, know that there are many out there with these symptoms. They are real and they are hard, and they are treatable!
The earlier you address the issue, the sooner you’ll be able to reduce your high-functioning anxiety symptoms. No matter how severe or light your symptoms are, learning skills and reaching out for support will go a long way in living a better life.
Some tips for dealing anxiety begin with identifying “stinkin thinkin” also known as catastrophic thinking and dialing it back. Your mind and body need to re-learn how to deal with worries, stressors and change. You may also want to integrate mindfulness activities, listen to relaxation techniques and create daily routines that keep you grounded. .