Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

April 24th, 2025

Parshat Shemini begins with the sanctification of the Mikdash by Aharon HaCohen a day that could have been the spiritual pinnacle of his life. We know that the day suddenly takes a turn with the tragic deaths of his sons, Nadav & Avihu. The sudden loss of Nadav and Avihu profoundly impacts Aharon and Bnei Yisrael. Their deaths evoke deep sorrow and mourning, reflecting the human experience of bereavement.   Bereavement is a multifaceted …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

April 3rd, 2025

Parshat Vayikra begins the Sefer that will discuss all the laws pertaining to Korbanot, Kohen duties, and guidance towards holiness. The Sefer is also referred to as Torat Kohanim, largely in part due to the description of the sacrifices performed in the Mishkan. In the midst of these sacrifices, we learn about the "Shelamim – Peace Offering," which holds profound significance, not only in ritual but also in its psychological implications, …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

March 28th, 2025

  Parshat Pekudei, the culmination of Sefer Shemot, provides a fitting backdrop to explore the psychological concept of mastery. In this Parsha, we read about the meticulous construction of the Kaylim and Mishkan, the sanctuary that served as a dwelling place for Hashem during their journey in the midbar. At first glance, the detailed descriptions of the construction process may seem overwhelming or even tedious. However, upon deeper reflect …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

March 12th, 2025

Purim is a holiday of hidden miracles, where Hashem orchestrates salvation behind the scenes. But the turning point of the Megillah was not a miracle; it was a moment of profound moral courage. Queen Esther, faced with an impossible choice, had to decide whether to risk her life to save her people. Mordechai’s words to her echo through the generations: "כִּ֣י אִם־הַחֲרֵ֣שׁ תַּחֲרִ֘ישִׁי֮ בָּעֵ֣ת הַז …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

March 12th, 2025

Parshat Ki Tisa delves into the story of the sin of the Golden Calf and the subsequent conversation between Moshe Rabeynu and Hashem related to the consequences. During this back and forth, Hashem characterizes Bnei Yisrael as a “stiff-necked people” as the motivation behind many of our struggles. The parsha provides us an opportunity to explore the psychological concept of being Stiff-Necked and the lessons we can learn to overcome t …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

March 6th, 2025

  How you do anything is how you do everything. Parshat Tetzaveh focus on the elaborate designing of the clothing for the Kohanim, emphasizing intricate details and precision.  In the modern fast-paced world, where attention spans are fleeting, the Parsha’s emphasis to meticulous detail in the description of the garments carries a profound message about the importance of being detail oriented and precise in all our actions.   …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

February 28th, 2025

Terumah presents a profound exploration of the psychology of giving as it unfolds within the construction of the Mishkan. The Parsha details the meticulous instructions for creating a space on Earth to connect with Hashem. The Parsha starts by saying, “V'yikchu Li Terumah – and you should take for yourselves a contribution for me' (Exodus 25:2).” This passuk goes beyond the mere physical construction and provides valuable insigh …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

February 20th, 2025

Parshat Mishpatim delves into the rules set forth after the Ten Commandments, establishing a just world run through the divine providence of Hashem. While there were many commandments that the Torah could have begun this Parsha with, the focus on the acquisition and treatment of a Jewish slave provides us a profound lesson in the treatment of individuals whose life circumstances have led them astray. In considering the psychological concept of re …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

February 14th, 2025

Any one with in-laws can relate to this week’s Parsha. There are only two people in the Torah who provide criticism to Moshe Rabeynu. One is Hashem, who we see time after time providing Moshe with guidance and feedback. The second is Moshe’s father in law.  Parshat Yitro presents a pivotal moment in the story of Bnei’s Yisrael’s acceptance of the Torah. Moshe Rabeynu’s  father-in-law, Yitro, visits him and …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

February 13th, 2025

In Parshat Beshalach, we encounter a transformative moment as Bnei Yisrael, having just left Egypt, find themselves trapped between the pursuing Egyptian army and the seemingly impassable Red Sea. The Parsha recounts the dramatic crossing of the Red Sea, the subsequent song and triumph. However, in the face of this dire situation, Moshe receives a message from Hashem that we can apply to our daily lives. Boxed in between the Sea and the Egyptians …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

January 31st, 2025

Parshat Bo unfolds a pivotal moment in the narrative of the Bnei Yisrael’s journey towards freedom, with its lessons being especially poignant as we continue to watch out hostages being released.  It contains the last three plagues, culminating with the exodus of the new Jewish nation. Amidst these dramatic occurrences, we can identify elements of human behavior leading to Pharoah’s motivation to hardening his heart and subsequen …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

January 24th, 2025

Parshat Vaera begins the process of instilling hope into Bnei Yisrael that the redemption is nearing. Hashem appears to Moshe Rabeynu providing him the inspiration to approach Bnei Yisrael with a message of salvation. When Moshe approaches the nation, currently in servitude, we encounter a moment of profound despair. As they are burdened by the harshness of their slavery, they are unable to heed the words of their future leader.   The Passuk …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

January 16th, 2025

  This week we begin a new Sefer of the Torah and Parashat Shemot, we encounter the powerful story of the Jewish midwives, Shifra & Puah, whose courageous defiance of Pharaoh’s decree sparked the birth of the Jewish redemption.  Their actions provide us a compelling lesson about not falling prey to the present forces of the outside world. Amidst the oppression and cruelty of Mitzrayim, their actions shed light on the psycholog …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

January 10th, 2025

Parshat Vayechi not only marks the conclusion to the Sefer of Bereshit, but also the end of Avot’s journey in establishing Bnei Yisrael. As Yaacov Avineu’s life approaches its end, he gathers his sons to bestow upon them his final individualized blessings, and in doing so provides us with a final powerful lesson for eternity.   Yaacov Avineu takes the unique approach by tailoring his words specifically to the character, strengths …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

January 1st, 2025

Parshat Vayigash, nestled in the heart of Yosef’s story, is a powerful account of familial strife, emotional cutoff, and ultimately, the profound journey towards reconciliation. This story not only provides a glimpse into the complexities of human relationships but also offers profound insights into the corrosiveness of emotional cutoff and the transformative power of reconciliation. Parshat Vayigash opens with the words “Vayigas …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

December 27th, 2024

Parshat Miketz, recounts the dramatic rise of Yosef in Egypt, offers a profound exploration of the psychological concept of resilience. Yosef’s journey from being thrown into a pit by his brothers to eventually becoming a high-ranking official in Paroah’s court is a testament to the human capacity to endure and overcome adversity.   The psychological concept of resilience is defined as the ability to bounce back from difficult ex …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

December 18th, 2024

Parshat Vayeshev unfolds a gripping narrative centered around the complex dynamics of the family of Yaacov. A closer examination reveals an intriguing interplay of psychological concepts, particularly birth order and sibling rivalry, as we delve into the lives of Yosef and his brothers. Humorist Sam Levenson wrote, “Siblings: children of the same parents, each of whom is perfectly normal until they get together.” While families prepar …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

December 12th, 2024

In Parshat Vayishlach, we witness Yaacov Avinu’s dramatic encounter with his brother Esav after years of separation. The passuk says “Vayyira ya'akov me'od – Yaacov was greatly frightened,” (Genesis 32:8) when hearing that Esav was coming to see him. The Chizkuni tells us that Yaakov feared that although he had sent a conciliatory message to Esav, he was afraid that through some inadvertent sin he might have committed rece …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

December 5th, 2024

Parashah Vayetzei introduces us to the trickery of Lavan HaArami, a character who stands as a paradigm of deceit and selfishness. The dialogue between Lavan and Yaakov Avinu, starting with the words, “Just because you are my close relative, should you serve me for nothing? Tell me, what shall your wages be (Bereishit 29:15), opens a window into the complex dynamics between these two figures. At first glance, Lavan's words seem generous, off …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

November 27th, 2024

Parshat Toldot offers a fascinating opportunity to explore the psychological concept of delayed gratification, a quality that is central to behavior and personal development. In this Parsha, we find a compelling example of delayed gratification through Yaacov, who ultimately becomes the third of the Avot and father to all 12 Shevatim.   The story of the Parsha primarily focuses on the struggle between Yaacov and Esav, two very different brot …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

November 21st, 2024

Parshat Chayei Sara is often pointed to as the Parsha of Shidduchim, match matching, however it can offer us a powerful insight into the importance of cultivating love. One of the central themes in this parsha is the concept of love and partnership. The marriage between Yitzchak and Rivka provides us with wonderful insights to apply to our own loving relationships.   The passuk says “Vayyikkach et-rivkah vattehi-lo le'ishah vayye'ehave …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

November 14th, 2024

    Parshat Vayera provides us with a continuation of the story of Avraham on his path to becoming the ultimate patriarch of the Jewish nation. As described in the Amidah, while we channel all the Avot in the first Bracha, we end by singling out Avraham. Rambam in the previous parsha citing a Medresh Tanchuma introduced us to the concept of “Maaseh Avot Siman L'banim - Whatever has happened to the patriarchs is a sign to the child …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

November 6th, 2024

Parasha Lech Lecha begins the story of the birth of Bnei Yisrael. While many of us are familiar with the quality of ‘Chesed’ – ‘Loving kindness’ being directly associated with Avraham Avinu, one of his key qualities that is understated is one of his ability to show gratitude. The Parsha provides us with keen insight into the psychological concept of cultivating an attitude of gratitude. The beginning of the Parsha st …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

October 31st, 2024

Parshat Noach delves into the story of Noah and the great flood. The central focus of the parsha is the family of Noah, who, together with his wife, three sons, and their wives, survive the deluge aboard the ark. This tight-knit family of eight navigate the challenges of confinement and isolation during their time on the ark, offering us profound insights into familial interactions and their psychological dynamics.   Family dynamics refer to …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

September 27th, 2024

In Parshat Nitzavim we encounter the concept of mutual responsibility, which holds profound psychological significance pertaining to collective wellbeing. Moshe gathers the entire nation for his final address to renew our covenant with Hashem. Mutual responsibility teaches us that we are connected. Regardless of background, status, or personal journey, every individual is united in this pivotal moment, forming a collective covenant.   The fi …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

September 20th, 2024

Parshat Ki Tavo spells out the blessings and curses first introduced earlier in Sefer Devarim prior to Bnei Yisrael’s entry into Ertz Yisrael. As the Parasha ends, Moshe Rabeiynu imparts a message of empowerment to the Bnei Yisrael, reminding them of their ability to uphold the covenant and follow the commandments. He instills in them the belief that they possess the necessary skills and strength to overcome challenges by focusing on positi …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

September 13th, 2024

In Parshat Ki Teitzei we encounter various laws and ethical guidelines that address our responsibilities towards others. In the second perek of the parsha Moshe Rabeynu expresses, “lo-tireh et-shor aḥícha o et-seyo niddaḥím vehit'allamta mehem hashev teshívem leaḥícha” – “If you see your fellow Israelite’s ox or sheep gone astray, do not ignore it; you must take it back to your peer& …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

September 6th, 2024

In Parshat Shoftim we learn about the establishment of a just society, through the appointment of judges and officers. While the Torah discusses the importance of impartial judgment in legal matters, it also subtly emphasizes the value of judging ourselves and others favorably on a psychological and interpersonal level. It is fitting that my Bar Mitzvah Parasha, which always falls around my birthday of Rosh Chodesh Elul, deals with judgement. No …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

August 30th, 2024

In Parshat Re'eh, we encounter a powerful lesson about the choices we make and their consequences. The Torah highlights the importance of choosing to adhere to Hashem’s commandments and the potential pitfalls that come with straying from the right path. This choice reflects the psychological concept of self-sabotage, where individuals may unconsciously undermine their own well-being or success.   The Parasha starts out by saying,  …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

August 22nd, 2024

In Parshat Eikev, we are taught a profound lesson on the importance of doing the little things, seen through the transformative impact that seemingly small actions can have on our lives and the lives of others. The opening passuk of Eikev states, "And it shall be, because you will heed these ordinances and keep and perform them, that Hashem, your God, will keep for you the covenant and the kindness that He swore to your forefathers" (Deuteronomy …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

August 15th, 2024

In Parshat Vaetchanan the Aseret HaDibrot, Ten Commandments, are repeated but with some significant changes. One of the most famous changes is related to Shabbat. In Parshat Yitro, it says, “Zachor et Yom HaShabbat Lekadosho…” “Remember the Shabbat in order to keep it holy” (Shemot 20:8). In this week’s Parasha it says, “Shamor et Yom HaShabbat Lekadosho…” “Guard the Shabbat to keep it …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

August 8th, 2024

In Parashat Devarim, we find Moshe delivering his final address to Bnei Yisrael before they enter Eretz Yisrael. As Moshe is entering the final days of his life, he begins to provide rebuke and criticism for the people. Using the lens of this Parasha, we can glean valuable insights into the psychological concept of providing constructive criticism.   Sefer Devarim begins with the passuk: “These are the words that Moshe addressed to Bne …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

August 1st, 2024

In Parshat Matot, we learn about the concept of fulfilling vows and oaths as commitments to Hashem. Moshe Rabeynu teaches Bnei Yisrael about the significance of keeping their word and the repercussions for breaking promises. The psychological principle of commitment teaches us that when we make a promise, whether to ourselves or to others, we establish an internal obligation to follow through. This principle can guide us in both our spiritual and …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

July 25th, 2024

Parshat Pinchas sheds light on the fascinating process by which Moshe sought a successor to lead Bnei Yisrael into Aretz Yisrael. In this search, we can discern the psychological underpinnings of the leadership qualities Moshe sought in his potential successor. By examining these qualities, we can glean profound insights into the nature of effective leadership, teach aspiring leaders, and nurture leadership in others. The Passuk says, “Choo …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

July 18th, 2024

Parshat Balak recounts the intriguing story of the Moab King, who sought to curse Bnei Yisrael through the prophet Bilam. However, through the divine intervention of Hashem, Bilam's curses transformed into blessings. While the narrative highlights Hashem’s love and protection towards us, it also provides us a profound lesson on the psychological concept of the power of words. In our everyday lives, we often underestimate the impact of our w …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

July 10th, 2024

Parashat Chukat begins with a passage that requires further investigation due to its profound psychological meaning. “This is the law of the Torah that Hashem commanded saying, Speak to Bnei Yisrael and they should take for you a completely red cow that has no blemish and has never born a yoke.” The passage describes the mitzvah of Parah Adumah, Red Cow, as ‘the law of the Torah,’ ‘chukat ha’torah’, …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

July 3rd, 2024

Parshat Korach presents a compelling narrative that delves into the destructive nature of arrogance and the problems it can cause. Korach, a member of the tribe of Levi, challenges the leadership of Moshe and Aharon, driven by his own pride and desire for power. His story serves as a cautionary tale, teaching us the importance of humility and the perils of unchecked arrogance.   Arrogance is characterized by an exaggerated belief in one's ow …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

June 25th, 2024

In this week's Parasha, Parshat Shelach, we encounter a fascinating insight into the psychology of communication. The Parasha tells of 10 spies who brought back frightening reports about the Aretz Yisrael resulting in Bnei Yisrael rebelling against Hashem, leading to 40 years of wandering in the desert. At first glance, the initial report of the spies appears to be factual statements regarding what they surveyed. “We came to the land you se …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

June 20th, 2024

Judaism is a religion of second changes. In Parshat Beha’alotcha, we encounter a remarkable story of having a second chance, the story of Pesach Sheni. This special holiday was instituted for those who had a setback leading to impurity making them unable to bring the Pesach offering. To have a comeback, you first need a setback. Pesach Sheni offers a profound lesson interwoven with the psychological concept of second changes.   The Par …
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Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.

June 14th, 2024

Parshat Naso contains one of the most fascinating and enigmatic rituals in all of the torah, the story of the Sotah, suspected adulterer. At first glance this story seems harsh and archaic but deeper exploration reveals profound insights into relationships, trust, and insecurity. It provides us an opportunity to explore the psychological concepts of relational insecurity and jealousy.   The Sotah ritual is initiated when a husband suspects h …
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