Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

July 1st, 2020

Dear Rabbi and Shira, I’m dating a really great girl. We started right before Covid- 19 and Baruch Hashem have continued to date despite the challenges that social distancing presented. Things are finally calming down and we are now dating in person more regularly. The problem is my family goes to the bungalows each summer and I usually spend my summer upstate with them. I would consider staying in Brooklyn where she lives but I have a job …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

June 17th, 2020

Dear MKL, We are sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. This year has been a difficult one, with so many
mahapeichot- shake ups occurring in our lives. So many things which we previously took for granted are no longer present. We begin to wonder, “what will be with me and my future?” When the foundations are shaken, it upsets the balance of our lives. You had assumed, “If I follow the game plan, then I’ll ge …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

June 10th, 2020

Dear Rabbi and Shira  Hi, I’m engaged to a great girl. We are getting married at the beginning of July and there are a lot of decisions to make. The problem is every time our discussions become too intense, she shuts down and gives me the “Silent treatment.” This ends the discussion, and nothing is resolved.  It is obviously very frustrating.  As our wedding is really soon, we really need to come up with an act …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

May 6th, 2020

Dear Rabbi and Shira, Thank you so much for your column. I enjoy reading your advice each week. Due to Covid- 19, we both lost our jobs and with little savings we were forced to move into my parents’ home. While it is nice for them to take us in, we have one big issue. I do not get along with my mom. She is bossy, manipulative and constantly puts me down. I am just not sure how much longer I can handle this situation.  With nowhere to …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

April 24th, 2020

Dear Rabbi and Shira, I hope you and your family are well. It’s been 5 weeks since we’ve been sheltering in place. I’m wondering if I should start “dating” online as there seems to be no end in sight.  Shadchanim have been calling me and encouraging me to try dating through facetime, zoom, or skype. This is not how I envisioned dating and so I’m unsure if I should give it a shot. With life being so up in t …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

March 6th, 2020

Dear Rabbi and Shira, Ok so I’ve probably gone on dates with about 15 - 20 people in the past 4 years
Most of those people I went on one or two dates with, some went on a little longer, and it was a very normal vanilla dating experience, nothing special or noteworthy. However a few of the girls I dated  were people that actively excited me and I really wanted to continue seeing them, could be what people call a spark, or I was j …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

February 28th, 2020

Dear Rabbi and Shira,
I’m really at a loss what to do .
I am 33 and have tried every option to get married. I have done websites, organized singles events, and  chiller events. I’ve gone to Amuka, and I daven twice a day. One summer I even went to the Kotel for forty days. At this point I’m extremely depressed, lonely, crying myself to sleep every night, and I don’t know what the point of my life is. Som …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

February 5th, 2020

  Dear Rabbi and Shira
I’m not sure what to do. I married my wife over a year ago thinking that she was a typical woman from a similar background as myself.  We both grew up in Flatbush and are more modern than our parents. The problem is I didn’t realize how modern she actually is. Slowly after we got married, she started wearing shorter and shorter skirts, and sometimes now even wears pants. She has what she call …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

January 27th, 2020

Dear Rabbi and Shira
Thanks so much for your column. My family and I read it every week! Here’s my question. My husband and I agreed when we were engaged that we would cut back on friends of the opposite gender, as both of us saw it as an important part of our first year of marriage. We have now been married for over three months and he still is very close to all his friends who are women. He has made no effort to distance h …
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Author: Reuven Boshnack, Rabbi

December 25th, 2019

Dear Rabbi and Shira , I’m engaged to an awesome girl but I am not sure what to do about her work habits .  She has a challenging job that keeps her busy 24/7. Her boss doesn’t mind if she comes to the office or does her work from home as long as the job gets done. Unfortunately, the job gets done when we are on dates or just in the middle of a discussion. One minute I’m having a conversation with her and the next …
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